Letter to Myself

The Rabbi's Kid started a trend by writing a letter to himself in 20 years. I was quite intrigued, so below is my letter, except this one is to myself 10 years ago, imparting those life lessons I wish someone had given me then. I also want to follow with a letter to myself 10 years from now, but you will have to wait for that one. It was interesting, in thinking about writing this letter, I realize that a LOT has happened in the last 10 years. At 17, I would never have had any type of inkling that my life would turn out the way it has. It makes me really wonder what the next 10 years will be like. Anyway, here we go: Dear Shosh – It’s been 10 years since you graduated high school, and congratulations! You finally graduated college as well. I bet you have no idea at the moment how hard it will be and the journey that is ahead of you, but you have quite a ride in store! The next 10 years aren’t going to be easy. You have a lot to go through, a ton of changes to make, a new person to become. I don’t want to ruin it for you, so I won’t tell you what happens, but you should know that you will emerge on the other end, no matter how hard it is and how much you struggle. Just remember, the times that are the hardest, are honestly the ones from which you will grow and learn the most. It hasn’t failed to happen yet. Here’s what you should know to help you on your journey: - First of all, more than anything else, believe in yourself. You have within you what it takes to make it through. Your instincts are actually fairly decent, but you have to follow them and stick to what you think is right. - Follow your heart. It knows better than other people what your dreams and passions are. Again, listen to yourself. - Learn from everyone and everything – there is so much out there. You are going to meet so many amazing people in your life, and they will all be different and interesting and you can learn tons from each of them. Don’t count anyone out. - Take time for yourself, spoil yourself a little, life has to be grabbed. Make the most of every day. Don’t get too caught up in your responsibilities that you don’t enjoy yourself. - Don’t be so hard on yourself. No one expects you to be perfect. Others will forgive the mistakes you make much more easily than you do. You are a good person and you should value yourself and believe in yourself more. - Education is important, but you have to enjoy it. Only do it when you are ready, or else you are wasting your time. - Sometimes it’s okay to let people go. It hurts, and you don’t want it to happen, but it is a part of life. You learn what you can from them and then move on. People come into your life for a reason, and sometimes it isn’t a lifelong one. Don’t forget the lessons learned and the times shared, but it is okay to let them go. - Both appreciate and proliferate the little kindnesses in life. Thank people and tell them how much their acts mean to you. Remember the acts you do for others as well, because it means a lot to them also. - Don’t hold your feelings so tight inside. It’s okay to tell people you love them and appreciate them. It’s not easy for you, but it gives such rewards. - It’s okay to accept help and depend on others during difficult times. You don’t have to do everything on your own. People really will be there for you, sometimes even those you least expect. Be there for others as well. In general, believe in yourself and dare to be true to who you are, even if it’s not what others want for you. You know yourself better than anyone else. Can’t wait to meet you in 10 years! With much love, Your 27-year-old self